The 5 Best Questions To Ask On A First Date
First dates are intimidating for sure. It’s hard to prepare for something that could potentially go 100 different ways depending your date’s personality, and depending on the kind of date activity you choose. Either way, it’s important to remember that you’re simply getting to know another human being; you’re not committing to anything, and you’re under no obligation to like this person (although it would be nice if you did find love). Here are the 5 best questions to ask on a first date to help you break the ice, and create a relaxing vibe where you can easily connect.
1. So, what annoys you most about the whole dating process?
This question might catch your date off guard, but it’s a good way to let them know that you have some humor in you, and that you can both find some common ground on your previous not-so-great date experiences. You could also ask what annoys them most about the online dating process, and then inform your friends here at “Hey There” so we can try and fix it in our app, but we’ll leave that to your discretion. But really, a great way to break the tension is to talk about things that annoy you. It not only gets you both talking (cause we all know there’s a lot about dating that annoys people) but also gives you a good way to gauge the person’s whereabouts in terms of what they’re looking for out of dating. Example: If they say that the hookup scene is what annoys them most, then you know they’re probably more into this to find a long term thing..
2. Whose the biggest influence in your life? Who do you look up to most?
You can learn a lot about someone based on who his or her role mode is. This question could lead to life stories and life lessons that let you see a more personal, even vulnerable side of your date. Plus, people love to talk about themselves and what inspires them, so this question could spark plenty of conversation! Also a lot of times asking this question will get them talking about their family, which is always a great ice breaker, even if they’re nuts.
3. What’s your ideal way to spend a Saturday night?
This question is for you just as much as it’s for your date. If your date likes to sit inside and play video games for 4 hours straight on a weeknight, but you’re the kind of person who would camp overnight on top of a mountain after spending the day hiking the Appalachian Trail, then you might have some conflict. You could take the info learned here to plan future dates, or, not.
4. If you could go anywhere and do anything right now.. what would you do?
This is a fun hypothetical question, because it gets you and your date to think beyond your current limitations. You can talk about your hopes and dreams and be creative with imagining where life might take you. Or you could end up talking about that hypothetical vacation you’ve always wanted to take. Then you might start talking about vacations you have taken, then you’re cruising along…
5. What’s your passion? What gives you energy, and excites you?
Hopefully the answer to this question here is going to be “Sex!” and then you can both leave the bar and have an awesome evening. But that probably won’t happen.. However, everyone is searching for his or her purpose in life so this is still a good one. While many people do actually find their “thing”, others struggle to define their identity and spend years trying different career paths living in different cities, and changing their friend groups to see where they fit in. It’s different for everyone, and it’s a great philosophical topic you could potentially talk about for your entire date.
In conclusion, the aforementioned set of questions range from light topics to heavier more in depth topics. It’s important to ask these questions in proper context. For example, if you’re on a fun bowling night date, you may not want to bring heavy philosophical topics into the light fun environment. It could be a real downer to the over vibe of the night. The best thing you can do for your first date is to have fun and relax; and pretty soon that first date will no longer be a first date.