The Best Pictures to use for your Online Dating Profile
Most people work very very hard to put their best face forward in their profile pictures. They know it’s not totally real, but they cannot help themselves. Some of us take 50 selfies only to finally choose 5 or 6 from that to post to our profile. Our photographs on our online dating profile serve as the first impression, so it makes sense that we stress out over it. That makes this task pretty hard.. You want to look sexy but not desperate, intelligent but not weird, fun but not TOO fun, adventurous but not daredevilish, etc.. It can be quite a task to get the right picture. Heres’s some tips on choosing them that have been shown to be good rules of thumb.
1. Post Real and Current pictures of you.
Too many people pick photos from more than 2 years ago. You probably don’t look like you did back then, so why are you posting that picture of you? Because it’s the best pic? because you’re slimmer? because you have better muscle tone? Well stop it. You do realize if you end up on a date with someone they’re going to be pissed off if you show up and look nothing like your pictures right? You’ll ruin the chances straight from the get go. There’s no point to lure them in digitally with falsehoods when the ultimate goal is to meet them in person. It’s deception and people don’t like to be deceived, not by salesman, not by anyone. By all means pick the most flattering pictures of you that you can find, but do make sure it’s not older than a couple years. Unless you look EXACTLY the same. You’re the one that will suffer in the end.
2. Go Natural.. but beware of what’s in the background
Some people take selfies for their profile pictures.. Some have pictures taken professionally. Some hand a friend a camera and hope for the best. Whichever way you choose to go, there’s one rule of thumb to go for. Strive to look relaxed and natural. People pick up on it if you look contrived. And people respond better to pictures that show you in your normal every day element. They can relate better, and can envision you in that element as a real person. But the picture shouldn’t be “so natural” that it’s a blurry picture you took of yourself in the bathroom mirror. Blurry bathroom selfies are certainly not the best foot forward. Also be sure to examine the background of the picture too to make sure there’s no embarrassing items or people lurking behind you. Case in point.
3. Pick a Picture that Speaks to your Personality
Choose a picture that shows off your personality. Are you always happy and bubbly? Well then pick something that conveys that. It’s better to make it look like you have a personality rather than picking a picture that has you wearing a fake smile. Even if you’re hair looks better. Do you have a pet? Include a picture with you and you’re pet. Play a sport? A smiling head-shot taken while you enjoy a favorite pastime will definitely show you off in a positive light. People need to be able to read into your lives with the pictures you post. So let them read a chapter on who you are and what you love.
4. Keep it simple.. don’t confuse the viewer
Pictures of you at a party with all your friends are great.. If maybe one or two of them are used and you’re not too scantily clad. But using those kinds of pictures for every photo in your profile is not advised. The viewer might get confused on which one you are. Look directly at the camera, and have a nice expression on your face. It seems simple but I cant tell you how many profile pictures we see of people that are very far from it. The goal is to add pictures that convey who you are and what you’re all about. You want to attract the right person… Pretend you’re telling a story with your pictures. Each picture designed to speak to the user and tell them a story about you that they’ll want to hear more about.
Good luck out there!