5 Ways to Become Instantly More Attractive to Women

When it comes to initially attracting women, it’s really not rocket science. As long as you’re insanely good looking, super fly and smooth as silk with your delivery you shouldn’t have any problems. The problem is, none of us are Fabio ( am I dating myself with that reference?). If you’re reading this blog article it’s safe to say you are looking for some pointers on the subject. So let’s dig in to see what you can do immediately to “become more attractive” to women shall we? Top 5.. here we go.

Oh.. and remember.. it’s up to you. Put in the effort, and you will get the reward.

go to the gym

1. Go to the gym

Whether you like it or not, women like men who stay in shape. You don’t have to bench 300 pounds and look like a top-heavy gorilla to get a girl to compliment your physique, but you need to invest in your health to be more attractive to women. A little bit of muscle tone can go a long way. Start out by going to the gym just to walk on the treadmill. You never know who you’ll meet there too! Start slow, and stay consistent. It’s easy to fail here so you have to stay mentally committed. Do that, and your body will follow wherever your mind takes you.

you're really pretty

2. Don’t tell them they’re pretty like a cave man…

Women who actually are pretty usually hear “oh wow.. you’re pretty!” a lot. It gets old, fast! And when you say it, it makes them instantly think you’re unoriginal. You don’t want to be labelled as unoriginal. But more importantly, women want to be noticed for who they are, not for what they look like or what clothes they’re wearing. Sure they’re flattered when they come to find out that you REALLY love their eyes or cute dimples.. but don’t blurt that sh$t out right away. Ease into it. Even if they are decked out to the 9’s with makeup galore, they’d much rather you notice them for what’s inside instead of commenting on their looks. They know their pretty, and they know you think their pretty. You’re looking at them aren’t you? Be different, talk to them about what they do, what they believe, what they feel, and you will find an easier path to everything else.

3. Keep a neat and tidy apartment, and cut your damn hair

Hygiene people.. HYGIENE.. women have it.. lots of single men absolutely don’t. It’s too easy to get lost in the shuffle of watching netflix, drinking beers, and thinking about buying a bed frame for your mattress on the floor and ultimately end up realizing you haven’t showered in 3 days. Go take a shower, trim your beard up so it looks nice and tight, and get a haircut. Women notice things like shoes, neckline trim jobs, and ear hair. So keep it tidy and you will be better off. And you’re apartment too. If you bring a woman home and there’s underwear thrown in a corner, and a way too old banana rotting on the counter she’s gonna be turned off.
Let me throw a list at ya…

Haircut, Shave/Trim beard, moisturize your dry skin, clean and clip your nails (including toes!), wash your clothes, then put your clothes away!, wipe the counters, clean the toilet, put the toilet seat down, light a candle, windex the windows, vacuum the Dorito crumbs off the rug, take a shower every day, don’t leave food out for the ants, wash the dishes in the sink, and for god’s sake change your damn sheets once in awhile.


dont put this picture on facebook

4. Clean up your Facebook profile

Use social media to show yourself off when you’re single. Cause people you are talking with on a dating app such as Hey There (www.heythere.us) are probably going to try to find you on there to snoop around. Keep your profile clean, and relevant. Pictures of you insanely wasted after a night at the strippy should probably not end up on your social profile. Also.. women are freaked out by guys posing for selfies with their guns.. don’t do it. Remember.. women will cyberstalk you. So spruce up your social media profiles to convey the best parts about you or everything in them will be used against you.


find a job5. A Job, get one.

Women love a guy who’s sensitive, caring, tender, romantic, strong and sweet. But they’re not going to love you very long if you have no job and they have to pay for everything. Don’t be a dead beat, get a job. Doesn’t have to be glamorous.. Any job shows that you care about your well-being in life and want to continue to grow professionally in some capacity. Women feel more secure when you are working and even more so when you are passionate about what you do. Find a job that boosts your confidence in yourself and gives you stability in life. I’d even go as far as to say you should do this before you even begin looking for a woman. Sure, there are women who “don’t care about that” and “like you for you, not for what you do or how much money you make”…. and they’re called liars. Get a damn job.

Hey There… is not just a dating app – It’s a study in human psychology


A few years ago my best friend and I came up with what we believed to be a pretty great idea. As entrepreneurs, we’re constantly combing our everyday reality with our “is there anything that could improve on this experience” filter to see if there’s a new idea or product lurking.  At the time, we had just shut down a previous fitness app idea were determined to come up with a new software concept to pursue as a side project, that had one overarching theme..   helping people.  We spent a year in our basement think tank researching, planning, thinking, conceptualizing, and rethinking the concept that we would ultimately create.  As it turned out, the concept ended up being in the social networking / dating app realm.  And despite all the urging from many not to attempt to enter a market where giants lived, we did so anyways.  We noticed a gaping hole in the current offerings, and our entrepreneurial nature told us we needed to plug it, no matter how large the barrier to entry.  Little did we know that after 2 years of development efforts it would spawn into something that was going to be a hit with online daters.  The problem we aimed to solve was seemingly obvious and relatively simple.  The solution, was less so.  The problem was in how people made NEW connections in social networking.  We felt it was a bit broken with regard to making connections with people you don’t know you need to make a connection with.  Let us explain. 

The current landscape

All sites that we researched made connections based on 2 primary drivers:

  1. People you already know.
  2. People you may know because of people you already know.

* These 2 assumptions are the backbone of all social networking sites from Facebook to LinkedIn and outside real life connecting are the primary engines for making connections with people you don’t already know.

All social networking sites start out with the connections you already know.  Let’s say for example you just joined Facebook for the first time.  FB, will make recommendations based on your contact lists on your phone, email, other social network sites you’re already in, etc… as to whom you are already in contact with off-site who are also in FB.  The majority of these connections are going to be people you interact with already.  These connections are most likely already in your immediate social circle.  Once you get through that list, FB will start showing you people who you interacted with before, but maybe haven’t talked to in quite a while.  Sounds like a good formula to get you connected up right? Yes, this is #1 above and serves its purpose adequately.

The second driver, “people you may know”, is really the networking part of social networking, and the essence of every social based site.  It is likely that you do not know a single person presented in this list of friend recommendations but since they are curated based on people your friends know we have a natural tendency to believe maybe we should know them.  We may know them from a one time meeting while out with friends (and somehow FB knows that), or know “of” them through talking with our friends. Or maybe we have no idea who they are and ignore them immediately when maybe we shouldn’t.  Either way, this second driver is the one that’s flawed and/or doesn’t go far enough to benefit you as the user.

The problem

The problem we identified though, is that there is no list on any social network dedicated to “people we SHOULD know” and might never know if we do not blindly connect via these “people we may know” connections portals.  Where’s the degree of separation beyond first line?  Are people inclined to blindly friend everyone on the “people you may know” list and then inquire with them about why they should be friends?  NO!  That’s weird!  And as a result, there are countless instances of missed connections because people do not know who to connect with or why they should connect with them.

Why hasn’t this been addressed?
How could this be solved in a way that improves people’s lives?
Why would solving this make for a better social networking experience?
How could something that solves this improve an industry and help people meet others that they would be better off to know?

As entrepreneurs we are programmed to look for a problem and then solve it.  That, however, isn’t always the full answer.  You may be able to solve a “problem” but is your solution worth anything to anyone?  As important as solving the problem is figuring out a way to apply the solution so it brings value to someone.  We also looked at this as well and determined a specific application for our solution.  More on this later.

The “Warm Handshake”

We need a digital form of the “warm handshake”.  What is that?  Think about what you would do if you needed a service provider such as a plumber or electrician.  You’d likely ask your friends, family and/or neighbors for recommendations based on people they know and or have hired in the past.  Common scenario right?  It makes sense to do this because a past positive experience from someone you trust to tell you the truth is what you want to hear about before you potentially hire someone to come into your home, and fix your pipes.  It’s a comfort, trust and security thing.  Scenarios where we are formally introduced to someone we don’t know from someone we do know and trust are called “warm handshake” introductions.    This “warm handshake” gives all parties direct insights into the reasoning for being connected.  You know the plumber isn’t going to screw you over, and the plumber knows you’re not going to screw him.  “Warm handshake” introductions have meaning and purpose and more often than not lead to a successful connection that is beneficial to both parties.  Whether it is to a potential hiring manager, handyman, or new friend; introductions prefaced by one mutually known party that vouches for all involved sets the table for a quality connection.  These connections work best because they are pre-vetted.  This is also much of the thought process behind ratings and reviews of sellers on ebay, to reviews of carpenters on homeadvisor or Angie’s list.  So we believed that it would also stand to reason that it would work for social networking and people meeting people they “should” know or at the very least be compatible with.

Real quick backtrack to social networking sites.  In our opinion the “people you may know” functionality should be considered a cold lead.  Meaning, you most likely do not have any context of a potential friend request other than that they may know someone in your social circle.  This path to connectivity requires a serious and often lengthy commitment to getting to know someone who is a complete stranger turned potential digital acquaintance. These newfound acquaintances usually lay buried in a list with thousands of others never truly discovering their full potential.  We highly doubt anyone is doing this work.

Applying the “warm handshake” to an industry plagued with problems

This is really the genesis for our conceptual idea that spawned our app hey there…  We obsessed over the difference between online & offline behaviors when making connections.  We dissected warm versus cold introductions in all facets of online and offline relationship building.  We interviewed people on social networks.  We interviewed people on other relationship building services.  And we ultimately came to the conclusion that the best way to curate and explore new connections was with a more intimate system of discovery than existed already.  And that new system of discovery was most immediately needed in the online dating realm.  Perhaps nowhere is the need for friend insights more relevant than with dating.  Especially inside modern applications that all use stagnated notations of common friendships/acquaintances to try and crack this nut.  Where in online dating are our friends?  Over our shoulders.  Shoulder surfing our single friends while they’re on Tinder, Match, Eharmony, POF, or the like is something we saw time and time again in our research.  Why hadn’t anyone made the connection that friends like to help friends find matches?  Why are all online daters in a solitary, lonely experience on these apps?  Going it completely alone in a sea of strangers that may or may not be on the site for the same reasons as you.  Why had no one noticed that online daters are constantly taking screenshots of these apps and sending them to their friends for their advice on what to do?  Were we alone in observing this behavior?

Over the course of 2+ years, we built the hey there… system of direct friend insights to provide context, practical information, and where possible the potential for a warm handshake and applied it firstly to online dating.    To better understand how this all works let’s take take a deeper dive.


The wildly popular swipe app Tinder was one of the first sites to capitalize on using commonalities of interest and FB friendships when attempting to make new romantic connections.  The theory is that if you have friends and interests in common then you stand a better chance of hitting it off.  Sounds reasonable at first glance but what if the “common friends” are more common acquaintances?  We all know that people on social networks actually “collect” friends now.  So is there really any strength in this “common friends” approach?  Do these commonalities have any real meaning?  Does this help you to make a better and more informed decision as to if that person is a potential match?

We argue that in these instances all context is rendered useless and you are pretty much flying blind still.  Furthermore, even if we do know the people notated as common friends do we really gain any extra insight into this candidate just because they’re connected on a social network?  We argue no unless we reach out to those specific common friends to find out more details.  Only at this point would we truly stand to gain any relevant information that can affect our decision making process.  And we haven’t heard of anyone actually taking that extra step, so where’s the value?

Now what about the people on online dating who we do not share common friends with.  This is perhaps one of the most interesting dilemmas to explore.  Quick recap: we have candidates with common friends and/or interests, and now candidates with no commonalities.  Are these candidates less of a potential match?  In these instances should our friends be removed from the equation?  Do friend and family perspectives no longer matter?  Does the expansion of our social circle cease to matter?  We argue that this is where friend context is most critical and needs to be applied!  Friends can help by providing insights and perspective after careful review of the person you both don’t know.  Your friends and family know YOU. They’ve watched you go through heart break, and know what ticks you off to no end.  They know you’re quirks, and what you can’t deal with maybe even better than you do. If friends & family (our direct social circle influencers) know us best then it stands to reason that they can make certain inferences based on minimal information of a candidate when compared to what they intimately know about us.   For decades family and friends have been the most successful matchmakers in history.  More marriages and friendships have been made as a result of being personally matched by someone known and trusted within an existing social circle than any other method.  There are countries and religions that still rely on the knowledge of family to make appropriate marriage pairings.  You may think that strange, but there was certainly plenty of reasons for that to be the case in these cultures.  Techies have been trying to crack the matching nut using robotic algorithms for years but to date there is no technology that can compete with a pre-vetted friend made match.


This is where our app hey there… comes in.  We built it around the intrinsic human truth that our friends and family can provide very valuable insights into who we SHOULD know and meet.  Our application is built to emulate the way real life successful matches are made.  Traditional Social Networking and Online Dating sites are based on quantity and the concept of throwing enough spaghetti against the wall until something sticks.  Hey there… is built on quality within the quantity.   We want people to experience technology that hits on the most intrinsic essence of human nature which feels the most natural.  We look at our app as the new gateway to meeting people with an old fashioned twist.  Consider hey there… app the “warm handshake” in networking as applied to online dating.  The only application that wants to make real quality connections that are based on the input, insights, and perspectives from those closest to us.  

We’re not just a dating app

We have gone all in with our bet that people are still better matchmakers than algorithms and are enjoying watching the positive results come in.  We are not just a dating app – we are truly a social circle expansion app.  We believe that friends know us best, and if given the chance (and digital means) will help us reach our end goal of finding love.  With hey there… common friends is not just a footnote on a profile; they are active members helping their best of friends meet new people.  Sharing, advising, and with you every step of the journey.  Single people that join our app to find love, can also invite their best friends into the app to help them achieve that goal.  Not to mention the fun of having your friends in the app with you making you matches, writing you endorsements, helping you with your profile, and more.  Come see why our our wingman/friend role is poised to be a monumental shift in brokering new romantic and platonic relationships while bridging gaps in social circles.  


We are available for download on the Apple App Store and Google Play.  For more details visit our site www.heythere.us

Hey There… on Itunes (Apple)

HeyThere… on Google Play (Android)


A couple that farts together stays together?


Wingman Wisdom…

So….you’re out on a hot date.  Totally clicking over an enjoyable evening of wonderful food and even better company.  The conversation is flowing, sparks are flying and everything is going perfect. Then it happens!  Starting out with a little rumble in your tummy.  Followed by increasing abdominal discomfort.  Soon discomfort turns to hot flashes and your butt cheeks become fully clenched equaling the strength of a vice grip.  You are now on the verge of a ripping a major fart!  

The enjoyment of your date quickly turns into an anxiety riddled situation.  Your mind, no longer focused on the date, but rather running through a series of questions… Is it going to be loud?  Will it stink?  If I keep holding it in will it go away?  If I keep holding it in am I going to crap my pants???  You then excuse yourself from the table, clenched cheeks and all, swiftly scurrying to the restroom for a full release.  Ahhh….feels so good!  Fully relieved and collected, you head back to your date praying you got it all out.

The agony of our body’s need to excrete gas can be a major inconvenience.  Often times putting us in embarrassing predicaments like when on a date!  The ill timed fart can be one of the biggest nuisances of dating.  Burdened with so many unnecessary pressures as is, the pesky fart just adds another dimension of pain.  We agonize over things like…   Where to go on the first date?  Are they interested?  Should I move in for a kiss?  Are we now exclusive?  But no instance of dating is more pressure packed than knowing when to let the first flatulence fly.

The Early Stages Of Dating

The earlier the stage of dating the harder it is to be free flowing with certain bodily excretions.  Saliva, yes!  Gas, a huge NO!  FB Singles Group Member Cheryl writes:  “Never on a date and I’d excuse myself and hope he’d do the same.”  Most everyone would agree with this sentiment.  First dates are also our first impressions and no one wants to ruin it with a stink bomb.  Ladies and Gents alike do their best to hold in the gas to avoid embarrassment.  After all, we are trying to portray ourselves as sexy and desirable.  Farts are most certainly funny but never referred to as sexy.  So do your best to avoid releasing nature’s fury when in the company of a potential romantic connection.  

To minimize the risk of a gas leak while on a date try these Wingman Tips…

  1. Avoid gas inducing foods!  Everyone has a good grasp of what foods are more likely to cause gas.  Know your body and eat accordingly prior to your date.
  2. Antacids are good!  If you know you have a nervous or upset tummy ahead of time, try popping a couple of antacids to calm the juices from producing any toxic fumes.  They also reduce stomach bloat.  
  3. Ease up on the sweets before meeting your sweetheart!  Apparently there is a direct link between sugar consumption and greater need for releasing gas.  If you want to reduce the potential for gas then cut back on the sweet treats.

If by chance passing gas is completely unavoidable then just let loose.  Don’t put yourself through unnecessary pain and or discomfort.  Especially don’t put your health at risk.  Flatulence is a part of life for all.  Little known factoid here worth noting: Both ladies and gents all fart!

The Relationship Phase

Once courtship has moved past the early stages, progressing to some level of a committed relationship, farting will become a regular occurrence.   One of our female members of our FB Singles Group wrote in saying “If you date me, I’m like a guy with that stuff. I am really not prim and proper about it (at least not in private). I have done Dutch Ovens.”  Dutch Ovens excluded, the passing of gas will happen by both partners sooner or later.  Despite being totally normal, the first fart can be the toughest to squeak out.   Another of our members Dawn said it best.. “Farting is hysterical! Some men find it disgusting if a woman farts – not sure why that is. All of us are human. Regardless …in the past…the silent & deadly ones are easier to make a joke of. I guess if it slips out – so be it.”  

When breaking the ice for breaking wind keep these Wingman Tips in mind…

  1. Make a joke of it!  Adding humor is a great way to make light of an otherwise awkward situation.  By acknowledging the proverbial elephant in the room with a form of jest you ease all the tension making it easier for both you and your partner to let rip in the future.  
  2. Pardon yourself!  If you or your partner are all prim and proper then just do your best to excuse yourself.  Go to a more private area and let it out.  If one happens to accidentally sneak out then just apologize and move on.  
  3. Be preemptive!  Bring up farts in a casual conversation.  Tell a story about someone at work or a friend passing gas.  Takes the edge off and opens up the inevitability that both of you will eventually bust ass.  

Whatever you do avoid making yourself sick by holding it in too long!  One of our FB Group friends had this bad experience to share…”I almost got sick while dating this guy who thought it was unladylike! Imagine holding it all in while spending a weekend together. I promised myself I’d never date a guy ever again who made me feel uncomfortable about my body or my bodily functions! Life is too short to have your stomach in knots…. i prefer guys who think farts are funny.”  So true!  When you are with the right person they will make you feel comfortable in any situation.  In fact some guys even prefer a woman that is confident in ripping a juicy fart.   Like our friend Brian…”Word….. I’d whip out a diamond ring if she asked me to pull her finger.”   It’s one of life’s little embarrassing things we all do.  It’s completely unavoidable.  The best way to overcome the embarrassment is to be confident in yourself and your relationship.  A couple that can fart together will stay together!  

The Hey There… Wingman 😉

Just be real from the start!

Recently a really good question about a very common issue for many online daters was asked in the Hey There New England Singles Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/heytherenewenglandsingles/)

Donn: ”How many times have y’all been on a few dates everything seems great then bam! They flip a switch and are like a completely different person…. Just be real from the start!! I can’t stand that sh@#. I will leave regardless because to me you played me!”

Unfortunately for our friend Donn, he experienced the online dating bait and switch. Everything is going well for a hot minute then suddenly everything changes drastically. That amazing person you were all excited for turns out to be someone totally different. Did you just meet Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde? The truth is that online dating makes it very challenging to just be yourself.

The Bait

The goal of every online dater is to advertise themselves as a great catch. In this attempt to portray themselves in the best possible light, the tendency is to create a profile based on what we think other people find attractive. Creating false identities and personas online is extremely easy to do. A person can pretend to be anyone they want to be. The most common fabrications online daters make are personality, physical appearance, careers, and financial status. Use the right “bait” and attract that trophy fish. Every exaggeration is in an attempt to become the most desirable candidate on the market. White lies in regards to height and weight are usually forgiving by most. But when it comes to personality and character not so much!

The Switch

Most people are not blessed with the necessary acting skills to keep up with their fabrications. Sooner or later the switch happens revealing their true self. It totally catches you off guard leaving you ask… Am I talking to the same person? What the hell just happened?

The switch happens quickly. Just like what happened with our friend Jenn from the group.

Jenn: “I had that happen recently with someone. He came back from his business trip in LA and was a completely different person then I had been led to believe.”

No one likes to be led on. It hurts! It’s a total waste of time and energy! Worst of all, it makes it difficult to not be guarded in the future! Is it so hard to just be yourself?

Creating a false persona is easy. Keeping that persona up is the hard part. The best remedy here is to just be yourself at all costs. People appreciate REAL! Our friend Donn from the group said it best…”just be real from the start!” You may think people want a certain type of person but reality is people appreciate honesty and realness more than anything.

Before hopping back on your favorite dating app. Take a few moments to ask yourself these 2 questions.
Am I truly being myself? Remember, we are all unique in our own ways. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not. Anyone deserving of your time and company will appreciate you for you are, not for who you pretend to be. And do you really want to keep up a fake profile in real life for who knows how long? No.. so don’t do it to start with.
Am I being completely honest with prospective candidates? Make sure all the info you add to your profile is legit. No one wants to find out later on that you lied about your love for animals. Make sure that your intentions are realistic. If you are looking for a hookup don’t lie and say you want a long-term thing. Better to be candid about yourself in all ways! Makes it much easier to find someone that you will be compatible with.

Keep in mind these 3 tips for success!

1. Keep one eye open, one eye closed. Being a little guarded is ok and can spare you from some unnecessary hurt. Always keep one eye open to be able to pick out the deceptive candidates. But you also need to keep one eye closed to be able to take chances in order to find the “one! You never know who’s going to walk around that corner next.

2. Ask friends to help out. It’s always a good idea to have an extra set of eyes looking out for you. Friends are more likely to keep it real and call BS. They can also keep us honest in what we say about ourselves.

3. Most importantly just be real from the start! When you can truly be yourself around someone then you know you found the perfect match 🙂


The Hey There… Wingman

Wingman Wisdom… More women need to make the first move!

Wingman Wisdom…

The dreaded first move!  

As a society we’ve made major progress with gender equality.  Women have climbed corporate ladders to new heights and even shattered the proverbial glass ceiling with the first major bid for the U.S. Presidency.  However, when it comes to dating there is still a question of equality when making the first move.

Traditional ways of meeting new romantic connections have been replaced by digital meeting grounds.  The really cool thing about dating in the digital age is that it’s a virtual even playing field.  There aren’t old school social norms or unwritten rules of engagement.  With a simple tap of a button, anyone can reach out to anyone equally to express interest.   

Despite all this progress there is still doubt as to whom is supposed to break the ice.  The question was posed to our New England Facebook Singles Group (link) to gain more insight from real singles actively dating online.  

Group member Khary kicked off the thread by asking… “So how many of you ladies reach out to men you’re interested in? For those who don’t why don’t you?”

67% of single women respondents preferred the guy to initiate interest.  Even with significant changes to dating environments and social behaviors, women are still reluctant to be first.  Why is this?

Chrissy:  “I’m painfully shy…”  

Shyness was the most common theme.  Online dating can be a very overwhelming and awkward experience.  It even challenges the most extroverted person to come up with an interesting first message that will capture someone’s attention.  Don’t be timid as a simple “hey there…” will be a great first message!  Break out of your comfort zone so you don’t miss out on that potential match.  Guys will be impressed by your confidence.

April:  “I just consider myself to be an old fashioned type and I prefer a man that is willing to initiate contact…”

There is still an element of old school expectations that the guy needs to initiate contact.  Call it chivalry… Call it tradition…  Call it old fashioned…  We’re thinking that all you can probably also call it an unfair expectation.  Many guys actually prefer that women be the initiator.  In a highly competitive and often cluttered environment it can significantly help distinguish interest faster.  Many first messages from serious candidates get lost in the mix of unwanted messages from pervs and mismatches.  Think of it as you taking control of your dating destiny.  Your online success might be determined by your initiative.   

Anad:  “Then there is the fear of rejection…”

Rejection sucks!  It’s a major blow to our egos. Getting over the fear of rejection is a difficult task that requires stepping out of your comfort zones. Think about it like this;   What’s the worst that can happen?  Someone is not interested!  Get over it and move onto the next candidate.  Dating is an odds game.  Conquer your fears and increase your chances of finding that perfect match.   

Just because men are expected to be the initiator it doesn’t mean they are comfortable with it.  Men face the same issues as women in regards to being shy, awkward and fearing rejection.  Bottom line is, both men and women have similar challenges with dating.  Only difference is that our roles in the process are still influenced by social norms of yesteryear.  

Some women respondents were very comfortable with making the first move. In fact they preferred it!  This group was significantly more confident in themselves.  They had stepped out of their comfort zones and conquered their fears.   In doing so their dating lives became much more efficient and enjoyable.  It became a more rewarding and empowering experience. It helped them to narrow down the field of candidates to only the ones they had interest in. Saving them time and limiting the pains of weeding through all the mismatches.   

***Really cool side note!  The entire group was encouraging and supportive to everyone that participated in the thread.   Sharing in experiences with your peers provides an opportunity to gain great advice, feedback and personal enrichment.  Try joining a group or buddying up with your peers to work through all the nuances of online dating.

The one constant that remains true for both traditional dating of yesteryear and dating in the digital age is that making the first move is probably the single most difficult and feared part of a single life.  It may be difficult, but you should really try to be confident, practiced and able to handle rejection.  It really is the key.

Ron: “Confidence is sexy and much appreciated. Breaking the ice is the hardest part..”

 Work on developing the confidence necessary to successfully navigate through the modern dating scene.  Know what you want and go after it!